Writings

Queen Light

Today marks twenty years as she since transitioned. The reason we call it as such, is she shifted into another realm. A place we know not, yet imagine the possibilities of what it would be like.

So, if you remember 'Queen Light', please by all means pour her water in case the drink of our ancestors does not rhyme well with you.

The Queen of Light was a fun loving, organized woman and her children were privileged to be carried and born of her.

As her spirit hovers, we embrace and celebrate her life. We do not mourn her, as she finished her life's work in this lifetime.

We recall the conversations with her daughter and the lessons learned as follows:

Keep your business, your business.
Do not compare yourself to anyone.
Give your best today, every day, the best of the best.
Make your bed. No creases please.
Wear velvet or suede pumps, they will make you look good.
Do not pour the bottle of perfume on yourself now...
Food should be ready in 30 to 40 minutes. Gosh... we are hungry!
Why are you sucking your thumb? I will only hold the pinkie now.
Start with what you like on your plate. When full, you can leave what you do not like without feeling guilty.
All your pocket money is spent on people on the streets. I have a feeling one day you will invite the whole town to our house (And she did...)
You are too kind 'little mama'. A little talon did not hurt anybody (She grew a few vital ones).
What do you want? We can get it, just not now. Let us take note of it in our notebook of things to buy.
First entrepreneurship lesson - making a bean necklace and getting it sold.
Feeding the kids every Saturday (Yes, goats).
Going for a girl’s day out every fortnight (All dressed and looking cute with no apologies).
Do not talk too much.
Flowers for arranging please - such good therapy.
If you make me a glass of orange juice, you could start earning money.
I only want my baby to be a book and 'A' girl. There is enough time for everything under the sun.
Get a boyfriend after '24' years. Before that, you nor they know what you really want.

Yes, funny, topical conversations/statements the 'Queen of Light' and her daughter had. Before she could tell all her teen-hood secrets and crazy beautiful life thereafter.

She is now confident the 'Queen' is our guiding light, truly as her name.

Ase... We remember.

So, we got to know

The call was overdue. I run through the phone to dial away. On the other line was her, Ma’ Nifty. We had a detailed conversation about where I was in life. She confessed that you were partly doing well but within you was a dark secret. She tried to put a finger to it but could not. You had changed. We ran through the mistakes of old and realised that the writing was on the wall all along. You were he/him wanting to be with him/him. We wondered why we were so blind to the messages you were sending.

As short as this entry will run, one thing I have wanted to mention is that you are still loved. You have the freedom to be whatever you want to be and to be with whomever you want. After denying who you choose not to let out of the bag. We would like to let you know we now understand your disposition.

The Old Lady, Oma

Oma, they called her. She was graceful. I knew she had lived a beautiful life and still aspired. The first time I met her she was in her dress-robe, shaking like a little child. I knocked her door since it appeared her doorbell was not working.
Three weeks later, I knew I needed that room, that house to call home. I tried to reach out to her, and she offered me the place. The day I settled she gave me coffee. It was the rusty powdered coffee in an antique China cup, saucer, and spoon to match. A heated kettle that sang poured gently the lifeless hot water to the fragile porcelain cup, and out came the freshly brewed coffee aroma finding its way into my exhausted nose. Yes, my nose was exhausted. I was smelling mold and old lady scents not a mile away but on every closing inch.